Tuesday Tips | Volume 2 | from Your Vermont Wedding Planner

Happy Holidays from Vermont!  I'm still playing around with my title for Tuesday Tips and hope to land on something that feels right really soon. Feel free to drop me any suggestions you might have. So, I've been thinking a lot about the generosity of others this time of year but also during the wedding process which brings me to today's tip.

Let your bridal party help with some tasks and decisions.

 Makeup for both of these stunning brides by  Flawless Cosmetic Design.    Photos on the left by  Ember Photography  and on the right by  Grazier Photography.

Makeup for both of these stunning brides by Flawless Cosmetic Design.

Photos on the left by Ember Photography and on the right by Grazier Photography.

I know!  I feel you dying a little bit inside at the thought of giving up some control but I promise, it's OK and it even might help to ease a bit of that stress. Let's look at bridesmaids as our example today...

Who are your bridesmaids?  They're family, life long friends, and maybe newer friends who you know will be there forever.  These are your people! They are a huge part of your life.  They want to be part of your wedding day.  They want to jump in and be supportive but maybe they don't know how to or what is needed.  You should let them help.  Let them make some decisions, easy ones to start... let them pick their shoes.  You want them in comfortable shoes that day.  Boom, one decision you don't need to make.  Next, depending on your wedding style, let them pick their dresses... with some guidelines. We have to have a few dress guidelines!  Then, actually give them control to plan your bridal shower or bachelorette party, like really give them the control. Enjoy the surprises that they come up with for you.  Or maybe you can let them help with that one DIY project that you decide you really want to do. (Notice I said 'one' because I'm not going to let you take on more than one DIY... more on that in another tip)  And let them go further, maybe lean on them to make suggestions on vendors.  Often they know someone great too.  Imagine getting a recommendation from your planner and one of your girls about the same vendor.  Now that is a match made in heaven! A perfect example is in the image above when these two dear friends shared the same makeup artist, the sweet and talented Marieanne from Flawless Cosmetic Design, for their wedding days. 

Now take this idea and run with it.  I bet you'll be surprised at how much your attendants are willing to do for you... not only willing, but how much they really want to help.