Tuesday Tips | Volume 6 | Your Vermont Wedding Planner

It's Wednesday sssssh!  don't tell anyone I am a day late.  Winter is still in full swing here in Vermont, although the days do seem to be getting a bit longer... it's so nice to see the sun until 4:30 PM now.  As the days are getting longer I find myself dreaming about our upcoming summer weddings. I was chatting with one of my grooms just the other day who was a little bit, OK, a lot, nervous about writing his own vows for his upcoming wedding. That conversation was the inspiration behind this weeks tip.    

Writing Your Vows

                                                              Photo by  Birke Weddings  at  The Inn at Mountain View Farm

                                                             Photo by Birke Weddings at The Inn at Mountain View Farm

Will you be writing your own vows for your Vermont wedding?  Does writing and expressing your feelings come easy to you?   Or are you nervous and unsure where to start?  Let's walk through a few tips to get you started.  The most important part of this tip is to write your vows ahead of time.  Do not wait until the last minute. Let me rephrase that, do not wait until the last month, if at all possible. You do not need that added pressure the month of your wedding.  Two months prior or even earlier is a great place to add this task when looking at your wedding to-do list.

To start the process, have a conversation with your fiancé about the tone of the vows.  Will they be short and sweet; funny; or heartfelt and sentimental.  I think a mix of all of the above is a great way to go. Next, get some inspiration.  The internet, your favorite book, song or movie may help.  While you're gathering inspiration start to make a list of all the things you love about your significant other.  I bet this one is the easy part.  Think of how much they mean to you and what the future will hold.  Write down your hopes and dreams and maybe that funny story about how you don't want to talk to her in the morning before her coffee... oh wait that last part is about me.  After your list is complete, and it certainly can be a working list that you keep adding too, start to put it together in sentences, it's that easy.  Don't forget to use the internet for inspiration if you need it.  Once the vows are complete I suggest you put them away for a while then pull them back out and edit as needed and as you get closer to your wedding day.  Once you've decided on the final script I suggest you do your best to memorize it and the only way to do that is to practice, practice, practice.  I want you to read those vows out loud too.  Do it in the car on your way to work, in the bathroom in front of the mirror, when you're out for a jog, anywhere at all works, just make sure you practice out loud so the emotions and nerves don't completely overtake you on wedding day.  Lastly, have a two nice clean copies of your vows on wedding day.  One for your pocket and one for mine.  I will be sure to hold on to the vows just in case we need that extra copy.  

Get in touch today so we can start to plan your wedding day.  There is so much to do.   I will be right by your side to keep you on track as we move through the planning process.